-----BEGIN PGP SIGNED MESSAGE----- Hash: SHA1 On Thu, Oct 17, 2019 at 04:10:47PM +0200, Amanda Gowland wrote:
On 17/10/2019 16:08, Hank Nussbacher wrote:
On 17/10/2019 17:00, Leslie wrote:
Indeed. I am clueless since I haven't seen a single incident message among the various mailing lists. I would expect that RIPE should name and shame those harassing people at meetings. I am truly speechless that this goes on in 2019. I, too, am speechless.
What always amazes me with these things, whether it's at a ripe level, or as we've seen wider in society. "But I haven't seen it"
Perhaps you are not the one being harassed and the folks who are haven't told you about their experiences.
I have not been to as many meetings as you but I have never seen any incident, even in the slightest, where the people attending were acting inappropriately in any sort of way. I consider RIPE meetings extremely safe and inclusive, so just paint me clueless as to what the issue is.
I've been to exactly 1 ripe meeting. Ripe 77. Within 3 minutes of arriving, while in the queue to pick up my badge, the guy behind me in the queue was hitting on me and making me feel uncomfortable. Three. Minutes. Part of what we are dealing with here is the "acting inappropriately in any sort of way". What you consider appropriate behaviour may not be the same as what I consider appropriate. While in the diversity lunch, there was a disagreement between myself and another attendee. Someone who I've been told is known for being a pain. That interaction left me stood outside the room in tears being comforted by one of the approved contact people. I spent the rest of the event trying to avoid being anywhere near that individual. It was suggested by one speaker that people talk to those in minorities about the harrassment we experience both at RIPE and as members of the wider tech community. Don't, if we want to volunteer the information we will. But for most of us, we don't want to. We don't want to have to relive it to tell it every time. I'm sat here at my laptop at home, watching the live stream, writing this, in tears, as I relive the experiences. It hurts even more when people say "I've not seen it, so it can't be happening". It devalues our experience. It's basically gaslighting. I don't want to talk about this shit. I don't want to be the one who has to go to tech conferences and do presentations on how we can make a nicer environment for everyone. But I realise that if I don't speak up, then I'm doing a disservice to those who come after me. You may not have experienced it. You may not have seen it. But its there. Believe us. J -----BEGIN PGP SIGNATURE----- Version: GnuPG v1.2.4 (GNU/Linux) iD8DBQFdqHth42M0lILkmGIRAlsHAKCO+inrLZqMiuVm+0frOdVZuQO2yQCgrFco GohEUBgA3N2Uzy7ck9bAo2E= =JnLM -----END PGP SIGNATURE-----